Child sexual abuse is one of the most serious crimes in society. When an adult in a position of trust — such as a teacher, tutor, or caregiver — uses their authority to exploit a child, it represents a profound betrayal. Children aged 13 or younger are completely incapable of giving legal or meaningful consent to any sexual activity with an adult. The law exists to protect children precisely because they lack the emotional and psychological maturity to understand what is being done to them.
Power Imbalance and Grooming
Abusers rarely use force initially. Instead, they build trust gradually — with the child and the family. A tutor visiting a home regularly, bathing or being alone with a child, and creating private rituals are all warning signs. This process is called grooming. The abuser normalises inappropriate behaviour step by step until the child no longer recognises it as wrong. Parents must be alert to any adult who seeks excessive private time with their child.
Trauma Bonding
When a victim defends their abuser or expresses love toward them, it does not mean that abuse did not occur. This is a well-documented psychological response called trauma bonding. The child’s brain, under prolonged abuse, creates emotional attachment as a survival mechanism. Courts and child protection experts recognise this and do not allow a minor’s stated wishes to override their legal protection.
Pregnancy and Physical Evidence
When abuse results in pregnancy, it removes all doubt about what occurred. It also highlights the devastating physical consequences children can suffer. A 13-year-old’s body and mind are not prepared for pregnancy. This is a medical emergency as much as a criminal one.
What Parents Must Do
Never leave your child alone with any adult tutor or teacher in private spaces such as bathrooms. Teach your children from an early age about body autonomy — that no adult has the right to touch them inappropriately. Create an environment where your child feels safe telling you anything without fear of punishment or disbelief.
Reporting Abuse
If you suspect a child is being abused, report it immediately to local police or child protection services. Do not delay out of fear of social stigma. Your report could save a child’s life.
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